One of the observations I’ve made about going through tough times is the importance of my personal space. When I have personal space or an island of safety, it makes things easier to handle. We all need safety in order to heal.
When my personal space is threatened at the same time I’m going through a crisis, it makes things worse. At those times, no place feels safe. When my personal space is threatened, it magnifies the dangers of the challenge I’m facing.
Lately, my personal space has been compromised. My closet is saturated with water from a leak under my home’s foundation.
Although a closet seems like a small thing, it’s my space, and it feels safe. It’s being compromised has left me more stressed. Some of you may use journals or diaries as a form of your safe space. Their invasion is taken very personally.
It’s not a person that’s threatening me, or reading my private thoughts, it’s water. That invasion of water is making everything else worse.
The daily challenges that come my way seem bigger than they would normally.
At such times, my stamina wears down quickly. I get worn down by my challenges rather than wearing them down.
Knowing the importance of having a safe, personal space, I incorporated it into my affair recovery system. When you have a safe personal space, you can regroup and de-stress.
Without a place to start, you’ll find yourself flopping around like the most recent catch on a fishing boat. You flip and flop in desperation. You want a way out but don’t know where to turn.
Without a safe personal space, even little challenges start overwhelming you. The rub is that when your marriage is dysfunctional, you’ve likely compromised your personal space already.
Safety, both physical and emotional, is indispensable when it comes to emotional healing. It’s akin to a sanctuary, a safe harbor in the tumultuous seas of daily life, allowing us to stow away our anxieties, fears, and pent-up feelings. When we feel safe, we can bravely face our emotions, confront our traumas, and begin the intricate process of healing.
Disturbances in our safe space, no matter how slight, can result in heightened stress levels and exaggerated responses to everyday challenges. A safe space provides a platform for introspection, for honest conversations with oneself, and for confronting the most vulnerable aspects of our personality.
With your personal space compromised, it’s only a matter of time before your challenges own you. Life becomes a series of overwhelming challenges.
You barely move past one challenge and another one hits you. When life is coming at you like that, it’s only a matter of time before you crater. The affair is only one in a series of challenges that hit you.
There are things you can do. There are action items that start creating a safe personal space. Since you’ve been in the middle of things, you are unaware of where to even start.
In the download “Affair Recovery Workshop”, I’ll show you where to start. When you go through the workshop following the special sequence, you’ll have your safe personal space.
You can start making headway in dealing with the challenges rather than them overwhelming you on a regular basis.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
