When it comes to cheating, things can take a bizarre turn really quickly. But the good news is that during this time of year, you can actually use the weird habits of cheaters to your advantage. This is one of those areas where they are often caught. Now, I know some of you might be skeptical about the whole idea of ‘Top 10 weird things about cheaters’, but there are a couple of peculiarities that are worth mentioning.
First, cheaters tend to shop a lot – peculiar, right? Most of the time, they are shopping for their secret lover, but they also have to shop for ‘nice’ things to pacify their betrayed spouse. And who knows, they might even be shopping for that perfect gift for you, making you feel like a ‘queen’ or ‘king’.
But here’s the catch: buying things is used as a distraction and a way to make amends. They feel guilty for what they’ve done, and shopping helps alleviate that guilt. It amounts to them buying their way out of guilt. Moreover, they know that gifts have a way of diverting your attention from the affair.
So, if you receive a lavish gift that makes you feel like royalty, it’s time to start questioning the motives behind it. Perhaps, it’s their conscience trying to appease itself. These gifts also allow them to convince themselves that they are still a good husband or wife. In these days, many couples focus on the external trappings of love. They show love in external ways rather than internal ones or via changes in your relationship. In their minds, since they are providing you with something good, it automatically makes them a good person.
But here’s where things get really concerning: when a gift is overly extravagant, it might be an attempt to balance the scales. They did something nice for you, so now they feel entitled to do something really nice for themselves. In this scenario, the gift is a tool for manipulation, not an expression of love.
I delve deeper into the mindset of cheaters in my ebook, “Why He Cheats“, where I explore the impact of fantasies. Why? Because fantasies are what fuel affairs both your fantasies and theirs. If you don’t address and confront these fantasies, you won’t be able to put an end to the affair thinking.
Let’s be real – the basis for gift-giving should always be love, not manipulation.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
