There’s a great deal you learn about people at a dinner party. There’s the pre-dinner socializing cocktail conversations followed by the dinner conversations.
Each requires a different set of social skills. Once you sit down, you are locked into talking with those around you. At that point, it’s not so easy to drift off or wander to another conversation.
At one dinner party I attended, the host intentionally sat me beside what some of you would consider ‘a lover’. She openly discussed how she was sleeping with several married men and her fondness for frolicking at Burning Man.
I don’t know if the host fully knew what I do for a living by seating me next to her. To my surprise, the conversation was enlightening.
Her openness in discussing sex over dinner in the mixed company had an intended shock value. Her bluntness surprised me initially. Topics like that are typically talked about in the counseling office rather than over dinner with others.
Those around us were intrigued by the discussion going on between the therapist and the seducer. Topics they considered too taboo for public discussion were going on and they were intrigued.
It was as if she was being a verbal exhibitionist. She was determined to show that no sexual topic was taboo for her. She saw nothing wrong with what she was doing.
I can imagine a woman that up front about sexual matters would surprise if not shock a potential cheater. It was a way of taking sexual control over conversations.
Being well aware of how seduction happens verbally before it happens physically, she showed me how easy it was for her to overpower men by directing their attention to cheating. Once she has their attention, they are no longer considering how what they are doing impacts their wives. Instead, they are fantasizing about her.
She gave me example after example of how she controlled and overpowered the men in her life. She lived for the thrill of doing so.
Women like her can’t be reasoned with. You can’t expect them to show restraint with your spouse when they don’t even show restraint in their dinner-time conversation.
The danger is that there are women and men like her out there. Your spouse may have good intentions, yet when caught in a moment of weakness or after one too many drinks with someone like her those good intentions wash off.
She showed me how easy it was for some women to seduce their target. The dinner party with her reinforced how important it is to help couples like you survive affairs.
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Keeping It Real,
Jeff
