There are times when you feel alone in your pain. This is especially true when you have little to no support system. I am here to tell you that you are not alone.
In today’s world, I’m encountering larger numbers of you who have little to no support system. Some are fortunate to have five or fewer friends. The limited social supports make recovery a greater struggle.
You may never have thought you’d be in this position. It could be that your narcissistic and controlling spouse has alienated you from what friends you had. Under such circumstances, you feel more like a hostage than a spouse.
Narcissistic and controlling spouses make things more painful than needed. They use their skills in trapping you into the situation. The isolation starts with the love-bombing you during the wooing stage. The projection of unconditional love is used to hook you into their world. They then slowly chip away at your self-esteem and confidence, making you more reliant on them.
But don’t despair, there are ways to build up a support system even if you may feel like you have lost all of it. It may seem daunting at first, but with small steps and determination, you can create a strong and reliable network for yourself.
Don’t believe everything they tell you now. Don’t let it pull at your heartstrings later when there won’t be room for logic and reasoning.
When you are faced with being trapped like a hostage your own emotions start being used against you. They have ways of saying and doing things that twist things around.
At those times your mind and emotions work against you. It’s at those times, it’s important to trust your gut rather than give in to your fears.
When you do manage to escape the trap you’ve been in, you can start caring for the scars and wounds. Whether you want to admit it or not, what they said and did wounded your heart and mind.
The wounds might be so deep that you didn’t even realize they were there. You start thinking about all the things that have been said, done, or ignored by this person who was supposed to love you.
You wonder how long it will take for these wounds to heal. How long will it be before you can stop reliving them?
They managed to program you to believe something that isn’t so. They wanted you to keep the peace at the price of your own safety and sanity.
Getting past this requires giving yourself permission to heal. It also requires help in knowing where to start. Your ability to trust has been mangled beyond recognition.
You may not want to trust them again, with good reason, although you want to trust others. Learning how to trust after what you’ve been through is important.
This is where the video “How Can I Trust You Again?” comes in. It guides you in learning what trust is along with how to build healthy trust. Rather than repeat what you just left, start learning ways of building a healthier trust in your relationships.
You can trust again and have healthy relations. Getting to that point requires both knowledge and effort. Knowledge about how to build trust and effort in changing how you’ve been doing things and thinking.
This video guides you through that.
Just Click and download today. Start making changes rather than repeating the same old mistakes.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
