When I was a child, there were times when all it took was a look or a signal from my parent’s eye to make me change what I was doing. Not every parent mastered this skill, although mine and a few others did. Whenever you were on the receiving in of ‘the look’, you immediately reacted.
I never thought much of those experiences until back in 2006, at a neuroscience conference. The memory resurfaced while listening to one of the presentations. Researchers are finding that it is not only possible to control behavior with a look of your eye, but even activate more reactions inside you. They are finding that a look triggers a great deal of brain activity.
The look of one person triggers activity in another person’s brain. This is how one generation often controls subsequent generations. This is how some parents control their children’s behaviors.
The ramifications of this when it comes to affairs are astounding. On hearing what researchers are finding, it hit me that ‘bedroom eyes’ are more powerful than I ever imagined. Some lovers trigger messages of seduction in other people’s minds just with a look in their eyes.
Those lovers with bedroom eyes not only make connections with potential lovers with their eyes, but they also turn on brain networks and start a whole series of trigger actions. Those actions include the re-activation of previous experiences, lusts, and fantasies. Think about that for a moment. One look does start a domino effect of brain activity. Researchers are even finding out what actions are triggered in the left and right hemispheres of the brain.
One of the most fascinating things about this research is that it not only applies to romantic relationships, but also to everyday interactions. In fact, we all use the power of eye contact and facial expressions in our daily lives without even realizing it. For example, have you ever noticed that when someone smiles at you, you usually smile back? This is because seeing a smile triggers the mirror neurons in your brain and you smile back.
Those seductive looks control the emotions in the other person, which in this case is the potential cheater. Yes, I said “control”. The one looking takes charge of what begins unfolding. Once that emotional system is activated, it takes charge of any relationship decisions, including whether or not they connect or have an affair.
If you are like me, on thinking through these revelations, I thought “That is some scary stuff! Those science fiction comic books with androids shooting mind control beams from their eyes are the real thing.”
The good news is that you can do something about the android lovers with mind control beams. You can take steps at rewiring your spouse’s brain by making better and stronger connections with them. Yes, how you interact with your spouse changes the wiring of their brain making them either more vulnerable or less vulnerable to android lovers with mind control beams.
That’s where my “30 Days to a Better Marriage” product comes in. By strengthening the connections between you and your spouse, there is an actual rewiring of your spouse’s brain. New connections are made and the connections are strengthened to where they can resist ‘the look’ of mind control beams from lover androids.
The threat of mind control beams is not new. The threat has always been there. It is only now that brain researchers are understanding more about how the brain works and ways of hacking into it. Those findings are also providing us with new ways of protecting yourselves and your spouse from the dangers to your marriage.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
