Category: Understanding Affairs
Acceptance of what is
Yesterday I wrote concerning truth. What goes hand-in-hand with truth is acceptance. In dealing with the aftermath of an affair, once you tell yourself the truth about what is
The truth is the truth.
During recovery from an affair, it is often difficult to tell yourself the truth. Although difficult, this is an important task that must be done. You will need to
Love is not enough
There are some couples who believe that all they need to do in order to survive an affair is just love their spouse more. This notion sounds nice, yet
Neighbors
If you can rank affairs in terms of degrees of difficulty to overcome, there are some that are more difficult to overcome than others. The types that are very
What about flirting?
Flirting is often seen as innocent. Flirting is seen as a behavior where no one gets hurt. If you are in the process of recovering from an affair, flirting
“…make no provision for evil.”
Many affairs develop as a result of opportunities created. In scripture, the admonition to make no provision for evil applies to affairs. Taking a few precautions can often prevent
“…but the book said an affair would make things better.”
There are many books and literature about affairs in the marketplace. With the plethora of products there are also many agendas.Many bookstores have whole sections on ‘marriage’ of which
Determining the “right” thing to do.
Determining the “right” thing to do is not always easy. What the “right” thing to do is has a great deal to do with what standard you use. That
Accountability and Affairs
In working with couples going through affair situations, there are difficulties with accountability. Oftentimes, the resolute spouse ‘overlooks’ faults rather than deal with them. When you do bring them
Understanding Forgiveness
Forgiveness is an issue that many people want but few understand. Forgiveness involves letting go of the emotional pain. It also means letting go of the desire and any
