Category: Understanding Affairs
The Victimless Crime?
Anytime a reader wants to know whether or not infidelity is a ‘victimless crime’, it sets off alarm bells in my head. Just the term itself has the connotation
The Threat of Family Affairs
One of the more unsavory types of affair threats is from encroaching family members. Affairs with cohorts or neighbors is bad enough. When the affair involves a family member
Understanding the Root Problem Behind an Affair
Recovering from an affair requires tremendous strength, resilience, and a deep commitment to healing and rebuilding trust. In the midst of this process, it’s important for you to take
A Lesson from when I was a young therapist
As a young therapist, I stumbled upon a game-changing lesson in a biofeedback lab. Don’t make the mistake of drowning out what your body is trying to tell you
Bad Habits of Cheaters
When it comes to couples struggling with affairs, I’ve seen it all. Through my experience, I’ve learned valuable lessons about what works and what only makes things worse.
Struggling to like your spouse
In a recent question from a concerned reader, their struggle to like their spouse after an affair was brought to light. While trust is often the primary concern in
The Myth of Perfect Recovery
Perfectionists make me nervous. I once had a family member who was a stickler for perfection. Whenever I visited her home, it felt like I was being scrutinized in
When Marriage is a System
Ever since I attended graduate school as a counselor, I hated the whole idea of viewing people and relationships as systems. I was a maverick in speaking out and
Unveiling the Guilt
Discover the unexpected guilt that cheaters experience, even if they seem oblivious to it. Except, of course, for narcissists. Let’s table that topic for now. What’s fascinating is that
Unveiling the truth about Brainwashing in Relationships
Discover the bewildering question that keeps on ticking in the minds of many – Can you be brainwashed into having an affair? Gaslighting, the ultimate form of manipulation, is
