When it comes to couples struggling with affairs, I’ve seen it all. Through my experience, I’ve learned valuable lessons about what works and what only makes things worse.
One harmful habit that seems to repeat itself is cheating spouses by protecting their phones at all costs. Using claims of privacy and it being their personal business, they hide their phone information from their partner. What’s surprising is that they’re shocked when their partner doesn’t trust them. They haven’t learned the hard truth: the more you hide, the more your partner wants to know. The forbidden knowledge adds an element of excitement and intrigue that only complicates the situation.
Another destructive habit is staggered disclosure. Rather than being honest and upfront, cheaters share bits and pieces of information over time. They believe it hurts less, but in reality, it only prolongs the pain. It’s a torture, not a compassionate act. Rather than getting the pain over with, they drag it out in the name of ‘protecting you’ from hurt.
Of course, there are many more bad habits I’ve witnessed. However, these two are the most common and harmful. If you’re trying to work through an affair, be aware of these habits and make sure to avoid them.
These bad habits only prolong the healing process and intensify the pain. I understand that navigating through the discovery isn’t easy for either partner. But engaging in behaviors that perpetuate the pain won’t make it any better.
Furthermore, these bad habits hinder reconciliation and healing. If you hope to restore intimacy, avoiding pain will only make things worse. Trying to escape the pain will only lead to more complications down the line.
A better approach is to seek healing, honesty, and understanding through confronting the truth, no matter how unpleasant or painful it may be. Facing the truth allows you to understand where you stand, what happened, and the state of your marriage.
In my video, “Overcoming the Affair Crisis,” I provide you with strategies for navigating the initial shock of discovery. The pain doesn’t have to linger forever. There are actions that both of you can take to overcome the challenges.
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Keeping It Real,
Jeff
