Growing up, we all heard the phrase “Life’s not fair!” And it’s true – unfairness is a harsh reality. So, when social justice warriors cry out about fairness, it doesn’t resonate with me. I know that fairness and equality are not guaranteed, and they never will be.
Not only is fairness a fallacy, but so is the idea of “kindness” when faced with affairs. When an affair affects you, fair and kind treatment goes out the window.
I hate to burst the bubble of social justice idealists, but the reality is that “Life isn’t fair.” Opportunities and outcomes are not distributed evenly. However, the unfairness of it all should not lead to surrender. It should inspire us to regroup and prepare for a new approach.
When things don’t go our way, it’s time to start fresh. The unfavorable outcome might have a purpose – an opportunity for us to do things differently and better next time.
When dealing with problems, honesty outweighs kindness. Kindness can be mistaken for weakness when affairs occur.
The unfairness of life demands a different mindset and attitude. It takes effort to develop the flexibility needed to face unfairness head-on.
Now, you face a difficult choice: exert effort to make changes or simply complain about the unfairness. Putting signs in your yard won’t change your situation. Complaining and protesting have never brought about real change.
So, what does fairness mean? Life may have given you advantages, but it has also dealt you disadvantages. You can’t change the hand you were given, but you can control your attitude and make the most of your situation.
In my case, I chose to make changes rather than just complain.
Facing an affair presents many unfair challenges. Accepting the affair situation may seem unfair, but it doesn’t mean you approve of it.
Although it is something you shouldn’t have to deal with, the reality is that you are facing it. Sometimes, life just isn’t fair or kind.
Having a cheating spouse is unfair. The rules of relationships surrounding infidelity will never be fair either. Neither will the affair partner fight fair.
However, this doesn’t mean you can’t change the situation. In fact, you should change it. You must decide to take action against the unfairness of dealing with an affair in your relationship.
Developing a different attitude and approach to the affair is possible. That’s where the downloadable ‘Affair Recovery Workshop‘ comes in. This workshop will guide you in developing a new mindset and teach you ways to handle your unfair situation.
You’ll gain strategies for bypassing defenses, fostering intimacy, and avoiding pitfalls along the way.
You can’t prevent unfairness in life, but you can improve your resilience and ability to respond to difficult situations.
Stay strong,
Jeff
