When the Affair doesn’t make sense

When things don’t make sense, it makes them harder to cope with. When you are hit by an affair you may find yourself asking questions like, “Why does it happen? What does it mean? Why does God let things like this happen?”

These are tough, soul searching questions. You can end up tormenting yourself with such questions.

First, when the affair doesn’t make sense, there’s a good likelihood it’s being driven by emotions or some non-logical event. Using logic to solve non-logical situations is a self-defeating proposition.

Non-logical problems call for non-logical solutions, while logical problems call for logical solutions. You may have to remind yourself of that several times as the logic circuits in your brain looks for answers.

Second, in the “Affair Recovery Workshop”, I explain the danger of ‘why’ questions and the angst they bring into your life. Given the nature of ‘why’ questions, asking them at this time slows down affair recovery.

These questions bog down your mind and your emotions.

There are better questions needing your attention. Questions that you can find answers to. Asking those questions is more productive.

Third, even if you found the answer to these questions, what you find is of limited use. They are questions about meaning and philosophical matters.

Consider what your next question is once you find the answer to these concerns.

At this point in your life, rather than looking at broad matters, you need focus on the here and now issues. You need answers that help you get out of bed in the morning and make it through the day.

Those questions are looking for answers on a level that you wouldn’t be able to handle right now.

Given that your mind seeks for the answers you tell it to, it’s time for you to reconsider the answers you’re looking for. At this point, you need to get yourself together and regroup instead of frustrating yourself with such broad concerns as the ‘why’ questions.

If you’re caught up in the logic loop of making sense of the senseless, you’ll benefit from the “Affair Recovery Workshop” and the direction it gives you for getting out of those loops.

Best Regards,

Jeff