Category: Waking up and confronting the cheater
Are you frustrating your spouse?
If you want to frustrate your spouse and wreck communication, one sure way is by asking them ‘unanswerable questions’. Although you may assume that every question has an answer,
Four Reasons not to contact the lover
One of the touchy topics that comes up with affairs is handling conversations with the lover. When you discover the affair, one of the temptations you’ll face is contacting
Life is not kind or fair!
Growing up, we all heard the phrase “Life’s not fair!” And it’s true – unfairness is a harsh reality. So, when social justice warriors cry out about fairness, it
The Sexual Addiction Connection
Are you curious about the link between sexual addiction and swinging? The answers may surprise you. Within the swinger community, many individuals see their lifestyle as healthy, normal,
The Stress of Leading a Double Life
A reader wanted to know “Can leading a double life cause stress?” The simple answer is “Yes“. I’d also add that stress is the least of your problems with leading
Returning fire with your spouse
In the 45+ years I’ve worked with couples, I’ve witnessed many couples fight. I never liked having a front-row seat to them. I still cringe whenever it happens. I’ve
“I was unfaithful, is there any hope for me?”
There’s always more hope for marriages when the betrayer is admitting their unfaithfulness and looking for answers than those filled with denial. It also helps when the unfaithful spouse
Ruining your spouse’s life
One of the things infidelity brings with it is questions. When it happens you find yourself asking questions you never even considered before. There was no reason to ever
When the AP shows up
Uninvited guests can be either a pleasant surprise or a nightmare. When that uninvited guest is the AP (lover), it’s more of the latter. Since there’s always a chance the
Should I contact the lover?
When you discover the affair, one of the temptations you’ll face is contacting the lover. You want to have a talk with them about what happened. In some cases,
