You may have asked yourself if you are being punished for something you did in your past. Although we have all done shameful things in our past, there are some things that leave you wondering if you are now being punished. When it comes to affairs, the occurrence of of an affair may or may not be punishment for past actions. In many cases, the affair is not about punishment, yet is instead related to ’cause and effect’. Whether you call it karma, paybacks or some other name, the reality of the world is that there is a law of cause and effect that you can not cheat. Cause and effect is not about punishment. Punishment is more about penalties for actions. Cause and effect concerns the consequences of your choices and actions. Confusing punishment with ’cause and effect’ often leads to an overload of emotional baggage.
There are some situations where the affair is a punishment, yet most that I have encountered have been more about ’cause and effect’. You may not want to consider the cause, or the cause may not have been your doing at all. It could be that someone else’s poor choices are now impacting your life. It could be that the lover’s parent raised their child to be self-indulgent and view sex as the only way to get their needs met. Unfortunately, the choices of that parent are touching your life. Is it your fault? No. Are you being punished for something you did? No. Are you having to deal with the effects of someone’s poor choices? Yes.
It is a drag having to deal with the effects of other people’s choices. Whether you like it or not, you are left with the results of their choices. It is not fair, it is not ‘right’, but at this point, it is your problem to deal with. You may have done nothing to cause it. By assuming that everything is your fault, you could be missing the picture and giving yourself too much credit.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
