Years ago, after going through a relationship crisis myself, a Christian counselor named Marlin Lance told me that “You are further away from God than you think“. At the time, I thought his statement was self-righteous and off base, yet in recovering from what happened, his statement was absolutely correct.
Although God is just a prayer away from any crisis, including an affair, you may actually be a lot further away from him than you think you are. You may consider yourself a ‘good person’ and that you only slipped a ‘little’.
When you start the recovery process, it will shock you discovering how far you’ve actually drifted away.
It’s not just drifting away from God, it is also drifting away from your spouse, your kids, your friends and your own conscience. Although it is possible that the one who strayed was the cheater, had you been as close to them as you thought you were, you would have sensed their pulling away long before there was any affair.
It’s only in our prideful arrogance that we think we can repair the relationship quickly and that we’re ‘not that far’ away from each other. The truth is, “You’re further away than you think!” Marlin was right.
Relationships take daily work. You have to communicate on a daily basis, connect on a daily basis, give affection on a daily basis, share on a daily basis.
It’s harder for an affair to take root when the two of you are emotionally well connected with each other. As each of you seek your own goals, it takes each of you further away from each other.
Your proverbial ‘boat’ has likely drifted further out into the water than you assumed.
If your marriage is strained, you’ll benefit from the video “How Can I Trust You Again?” which guides the two of you in getting closer than you are.
Best Regards,
Jeff
3 Responses
I’ve never heard anyone say this before but you are right on the money! Thank you for your insight.
So very well said! It brings to mind Ecclesiastes 4:12 “And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken” KJV
My husband and I took for granted all the blessings our good Lord gave us, “wordly possessions, taking each other for granted, not communicating with each and most importantly FORGETTING where our blessings came from and failing to stay in God’s word. GOD knows our hearts and minds, without him we are nothing. Staying in his word everyday is the answer; we have the manual for life, we just have to read it.
I look forward to receiving your daily emails; your e-books and emails have helped me look at our marriage in a totally different perspective. We are much stronger in our marriage today and I am so very thankful.
Thank you and God bless!
Jodi,
Your comments brightened my day. I am thrilled that you have been helped. The daily need for spiritual food is an important area that many people neglect, even though it has tremendous results.