Fear is an enemy during affair recovery. It steals your self-confidence, hope and happiness, then leaves you scarred and terrified.
Avoiding the robbery of fear <<– listen to the audio here
Hi, this is Jeff Murrah with Affair Recovery Radio, and I’m glad you’re with me today. The topic we’re going to deal with today is avoiding robbery of fear.
Fear is a topic that I feel is very important to go ahead and address with affairs, because fear is an enemy during affair recovery. When fear’s around it steals your self-confidence, any hope that you have, happiness. And after stealing these things it leaves you scarred and terrified.
It has a way of just ripping away whatever self-confidence that you have. And it can undo weeks, or even months worth, of work in a very short period of time.
I mention it in terms of robbery. It’s fascinating to consider what the difference between robbery and theft is. In both cases somebody takes something from you that doesn’t belong to them. But in the case of robbery force is used. For that reason, that’s why I talk about the robbery of fear.
Because not only are these things taken from you, there’s this sense of a threat being used against you. A sense of where you feel violated, that hangs around.
It would be one thing if you just lost these things, but when fear hits, not only after the initial loss are you suffering, but then you continue on in this state of fear. And in some cases it even gets to the degree of being in a state of terror all the time. That’s not a way to live.
In terms of getting past this, what I’m going to present as a solution is that you need to practice ways of overcoming fear. In order to do this there’s several things that you can do.
One is to nourish your faith. Because faith is the opposite of fear. The thing is, when you are fearful you have more faith that something bad is going to happen than you do that something good is going to happen.
Or that good will come of whatever’s happening. And you’re going to have to learn to exercise your faith in overcoming this. Not only exercising your faith, but what your faith is in. And you’re going to need to build that up.
Number two, you’re going to need to avoid fearful people. During affair recovery you are very vulnerable. And since fear is very contagious, if you find yourself associating with a lot of fearful people, you’re going to find yourself experiencing fear.
I know some of you may say but my friends don’t influence me. That’s a bunch of hogwash. Your friends do influence you.
The people you hang around do influence you. They influence how you feel, they influence how you think. When it comes to fear you’re going to find fearful people attract more fear.
There are some people, I even go so far as to call them fear magnets, because they seem to attract so much fear from everything around them and turn everything into something that’s fearful.
The real danger with these people, not only can they leave you feeling fearful, but they can turn your own imagination against you.
Our mind is a wonderful gift, but when it gets twisted around and immersed in fear, it’s almost like you can imagine all kinds of bad things and the worst outcome and get yourself all worked up for nothing.
The third one is to practice gratitude. It is hard to be afraid when you’re grateful for things. And it’s hard for fear to get any kind of foothold in your life when you have gratitude.
This is the reason why simple little things like saying thank you, or sending thank you cards, expressing gratitude to people, even people that you meet at the post office and grocery store, this is a start.
These ways of overcoming fear, it’s not going to knock it out all at once because you didn’t get that way all at once. It’s going to take doing each of these and continuing to do them and continuing to practice these consistently, to overcome fear.
Because fear can become a way of life, and likewise overcoming it can become a way of life too. I want to encourage each of you to go ahead and apply these techniques in overcoming fear. Nourish your faith, avoid fearful people, and practice gratitude.
That will start you on your way. These are things that you can do right now, here.
Best Regards,
Jeff
