One major area that needs attention when it comes to dealing with affairs and children is that of trust. Trust is an issue, since so much of affairs involves lies and secrets.
Children need parents they can trust, they need someone who they can rely on and believe. If you have lied, deceived or hidden things from them, then they will likely have difficulty trusting you. They may go through the motions of believing you, but that doesn’t mean that they trust you and feel totally safe with you.
Recall, that children are spiritual beings as well as yourself. They can often sense things in their spirit, even if they can not verbalize what they sense.
If you’ve lied, deceived or kept things from them they will sense that. (In order to make things clear. Lying is lying whether by commission or omission. Deceit is being tricky and manipulative.
Keeping secrets is not telling them important things to them. Given the nature of affairs, people often play word games to deceive themselves trying to trick their conscience and others into thinking their behavior is acceptable, or “I’m just human”, or “It’s just natural”, etc..
You may be believing your own lies.) Children will know when you are telling them the truth. Since they are dependent on their parents, they may not say anything, since they feel it may upset you or endanger their status.
From a child’s viewpoint, the relationship between their parents is foundational in terms of developing a solid sense of who they are and a sense of security for themselves. When there is distrust, lies, manipulations, etc., it deteriorates their confidence.
I will be dealing with other issues concerning children and affairs in upcoming posts. If you have a particular topic or question, feel free to post it.
Best Regards,
Jeff
