After infidelity has been discovered there are many questions that you will find yourself facing. One question is “Should I stay of should I go?”. Such a question is misleading. What is it that such a question is asking? Are you questioning how committed you are to the relationship? Perhaps a more focused question is “At what point will I leave?” . Such a question assumes that you have a point clearly identified as to how far you will go. Such a position shows conviction. The “should I stay or should I go?” question lacks any particular focus.
Another series of questions are: “How committed am I?”. “What does it mean to be committed?”. “What are my wedding vows worth?”. These are all on the ‘should I stay’ side of the story or go question.
The ‘stay or go’ question is a quick response in your brain. It is like your brain trying to take a shortcut and avoid the more difficult and focused questions. Such questions are often the by-product of too much popular culture influencing your thinking. This is your life-Not some melodramatic Hollywood production. Live your life like it belongs to you, not like you are reading lines in that Hollywood production. Consider whether you are ‘acting out’ something you have seen or read before or if you are consciously engaged in the situation. Are you making your own choices, based on what you know is the right thing to do, holding true to your commitments and honor, considering your safety, considering the safety of your children and choosing to do what is best? Yes it is hard work. There are no promises it will be easy, but you can make it through it.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
