Presuppositions. I know that it is a complicated word. What a presuppositions boils down to is “what are you REALLY wanting?”. The issue that really drives you is key in dealing with the aftermath of an affair. In considering the presupposition, you will find yourself looking at the question “What do I REALLY want?”
Do you want to save your marriage?
Do you just want out of the pain?
Are you willing to do what it takes to stay with your spouse?
Do you want to repair the relationship or are you seeking paybacks?
Since basic human nature comes into play in dealing with affairs, I often find that people find what they are looking for. If you are looking for a reason to dump your spouse, you will find one. If you are looking for a way to restore the relationship, you will find one. If you are looking for a way to relive the guilt, or induce guilt, you will find it. The difficult challenge is being brutally honest with oneself about what you really want to do. For example, if you are serious about doing what it takes to fix your marriage, you will take action, like ordering the book I am offering. If you are just looking for information, you will find that. If you are looking to rationalize or excuse the affair, then this site is not for you. There is no excuse for an affair. There may be circumstance that happened that made it easy to occur, but even that is not an excuse. If you are serious-Take action!
If you are thinking about taking action, you may want to set yourself some time frames. Sitting and stewing about the affair will only serve to confuse yourself. Whatever you do, you need to be honest with yourself about what you REALLY want.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
