When spouses violate the trust of the marriage it is amazing what kind of comments they make. The illogic of their comments I often find astounding. Comments like “It didn’t mean anything”, “It was a joke”, “We are just friends”, etc. do not stand up to scrutiny. If it didn’t mean anything, then why did they bother with it and cover it up in the first place? If it was a joke, why isn’t everyone laughing? If you two are just friends then why does it have to be so secret?
Such comments merely disperse the guilt. They do not convey the assumption of responsibility or the intent to make things better. They are excuses plain and simple.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
