Are you feeling uneasy about trusting the cheater? They tell you that they have changed, yet something’s still not right. They have said all the right things, asked forgiveness for what they have done, yet something is wrong. Things don’t feel like they are in the right place.
It could be that you’re sensing something that your mind is not aware of yet. Although it sounds strange or odd, you were created to sense things before you are aware of them.
You may be picking up on problems within you or your spouse that neither of you are fully aware of. This ability can help strengthen your marriage when it is a healthy one, yet drive you nuts in an unhealthy one.
This ‘sixth sense’ or pre-cognition or whatever you choose to call it occurs when you sense things in your spirit before your mind is consciously aware of things. The more you use it, the more aware of it you will become. My therapist friend, Sandy Pannett often said to me “Your unconscious awareness is a year ahead of your consciousness.”
You may even sense these things in your ‘gut’. There’s a reason for this. There are many nerves and neurochemicals in your gut, alerting you to when things around you aren’t right. They are highly sensitive to imbalances before you know what specifically is wrong.
This sensitivity is often one of the first things trashed and damaged when you or your spouse sleep around. In such cases, your awareness often fuels a fearfulness of what others think.
You may have thought that you were just being overly sensitive, which is partly right. You are being sensitive, it is just that the focus of your sensitivity has been messed up and misdirected. Although it can help you pick up on things as a form of early warning, it can become destructive when misused.
It could be that this ability is actually picking up on things within the cheater. It may recognize patterns, attitudes or inclinations that are outside of your awareness.
Rather than dismiss your uneasy feelings, they could actually be alerting you to items before they become problems. You may want to listen to what those feelings are telling you and what you need to learn from them rather than dismiss them or allowing your spouse to discount those feelings for you.
Speaking of suspicions of an affair or that things are not fully settled, you’ll want to check out my video on “Dealing With Affair Relapse“, which guides you through signs of relapse, things that trigger relapse and other items you’ll need in gaining a complete recovery from the affair.
Best Regards,
Jeff
