Although it is assumed that given the right set of moral values, that infidelity will not occur. This assumption has face validity in that it appears correct on the surface, although the reality is that infidelity occurs across the spectrum of moral values. Just because a person believes that infidelity is wrong does not mean they will not engage in the practice. There are often differences between what a person states their beliefs are and how they actually make the daily choices in their lives. A person may believe that infidelity is not acceptable, yet when their choices do not reflect what they believe, an affair can occur. What is important in preventing affairs are the choices the person makes. Do they live in such a manner that affairs are unacceptable? Do they remove any and all opportunities for an affair to develop? Do they avoid potential compromising situations? Although not every situation can be planned for, many can be eliminated by avoiding situations that could look bad.
Making choices regarding infidelity also influences children and teens in the home. The children and teens are influenced by what they see their parents do more than what their parents tell them. Children growing up in homes that espouse one value system while living another quickly learn which value system is more important in terms of how choices are made. Parents are often shocked when their teen develops congruency between the value system of what the infidel lives by and start talking about implementing those values for themselves.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
