In response to the question as to whether or not there is a time to cut him/her loose, the answer is yes. The challenge is WHEN to cut them loose. Some of the signals that they need to be cut loose include:
1. Persistent lying
2. Lack of remorse for their actions
3. Denial of facts concerning their actions
4. Persistent addictive signs of addictive behavior
5. Persistent turning things around and making it your problem rather than their problem
6. Disregard of responsibilities regarding children and spousal duties
7. Continuation with the affair
8. Disregard for the medical dangers posed by the affair
When these behaviors continue over a period of time (6 weeks or longer) then they are not just in reaction to the affair, they are long-standing patterns that are not likely to change with giving him/her more (love, prayers, confrontations, etc.).
Best Regards,
Jeffrey D. Murrah
