In dealing with affairs, one of the questions to consider is which is more important, the beginning or the end? Although ending the affair is most crucial to surviving the ordeal, many couples focus more of their time and attention on the beginning. The segment of the affair one devotes their attention to will have more significance, just by being the focus of the attention. That portion of the relationship that receives the focus will have the power.
It is always easier to start a relationship than to end one. It is also easier to focus one’s attention on how it started than on how it ended. Is it any wonder that couples who continue struggling with overcoming the affair had spent most of their time on how it began. Had they focused their attention on ‘ending’ the affair, they may also find that the struggling comes to an end as well. Endings and talking about endings are not easy, but they are necessary. Even if there is no satisfactory closure, the affair needs to end.
It is also worth considering that what we focus on, has power over us. It would make more sense to focus on ending that speculate on the beginning.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
