Choosing not to forgive is painful. In the long run, choosing not to forgive can become more painful than the affair itself. Long after the affair has ended, the instant replay of the events and maintaining a grudge can take away your energy, rob you of any joy and destroy your health.
Some may say, that sounds a little strong Jeff, …It does. Whether you like it or not, choosing not to forgive does that and more. It takes energy to maintain a grudge. The grudge may give you a sense of power and control over the incident, but that power is illusive. It carries with it a large price tag. That price tag requires more than people can give. God never designed us to hold grudges. The human body and our emotions are not equipped for long term grudges.
Keeping the grudge going is akin to maintaining a medication pump filled with poison that courses through our veins slowly eating away and trashing out our body. Life becomes drudgery. Sure you can put on a smile or a red hat to disguise the grudge, but even those do not take it away. Only the letting go of forgiveness can remove the poison and its effects.
After hearing so many questions and responses on forgiveness related issues, I am developing a product focused on forgiveness filled with information and “how to’s” that will take you through the forgiveness process. I welcome any further suggestions and ideas on this matter.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
