One of the things that frustrated me when working for others are the times when my boss told me to do something without instructing me how to do it. Assigning a task without instruction on performing the task happened more often than I liked.
It’s a sure way of frustrating your employees. It’s also a way of frustrating those of you who are seeking ways of recovering from your spouse’s affair.
Many of the how-to and self-help books tell you what to do, yet leave you hanging when it comes to ‘how’ to do it. They also assume that every couple and every affair follows the same pattern.
My preference is knowing how to do what I’m supposed to do, the order to do it along with the reason for doing it that way. There are times when knowing the reason for doing things a particular way helps me in completing tasks assigned to me. I’m also a do-it-yourselfer. So, once I know what to do and how to do it, I can get started on my own without waiting for further instruction.
You may be one of those who only require being told what to do. In that case, the self-help books may give you what you need. If you’re one of those types, you’re likely already doing what you need to do.
If, on the other hand, you need direction concerning how to do it, the order of doing it and the reason for doing it, then you’re in the right place. When it comes to affairs, the order and reason for doing things really do make a difference. Otherwise, you come across as being mechanical or unfeeling during affair recovery.
In my latest video on “Rekindling Closeness and Bringing Back Intimacy”, I share what to do, how to do it, when to do it along with the reason for doing it that way. The 75-minute video guides you through the challenge of rebuilding the closeness in your relationship.
This is assuming that the both of you have decided on working on things together. It starts with that in mind and guides you through the how or bringing the two of you closer again.
You know you want connection, but for some reason haven’t taken that step or took the step and stumbled. If you stumbled, you may be wondering why that happened. This video guides you through those challenges.
Click and download your copy today. You don’t have to stay frustrated.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
