The song Woman, Woman by Gary Puckett and the Union gap posed the question, “Have you got cheating on your mind?”. If you are a cheater, you know what the song is talking about, not just in terms of having cheated, but also knowing the ‘mindset’ that you put yourself in before you cheated. When you are in the ‘cheating’ frame of mind, you have already made the decision to cheat, and have likely roughly planned things out in your head. If you are not a planner, you have at least made the choice to ‘cheat’. Once that choice is made, you mind obeys your instructions and then begins seeking out either the person or the opportunity to make it happen.
When you have ‘cheating on your mind’ you will also be coming up with mental rationalizations and excuses for what you do. It is as if you mind is working overtime coming up with these things. Although you may tell your spouse that your mind just starts telling you things, the part you left out is how you made the decision to cheat. Once that decision is made, the mind just follows its marching orders and finds a way to make it happen.
You may even know the difference between your ‘cheating mind’ and your non-cheating mind. This is something that you will want to discuss with your spouse in order to help them understand and to help you overcome the blind spot in your life.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
