Dealing with stalking behavior is another one of the down sides of affairs. In my previous post I mentioned the ‘hunter’ mentality. Another aspect of the hunter mentality is stalking. If you have ever watched a cat sneaking up on its prey, there are lessons there that will help you understand and deal with stalking behavior.
The hunter is extrememly focused. They have their prey on the mind and often block out other distractions. They ignore what is going on around them and only focus on the victim. They show determination. They persue their victim with a dogged persistence. Since that is all that is on their mind, they are able to devote all their energies to that task. Things that would distract normal people do not distract them. They often build their lives around the victim. The relationship with the victim is often a love/hate one. They often alternate between one feeling and the other. They will talk about how they care about the victim, yet persue them as if they hated them with a vengence. The hunter will often view the victim as ‘their property’. This ownership aspect leads them to take things personally that are not theirs to take.
Once they have the victim, they play with them. They will seek to engage them. In the case of stalkers, they often want to talk to or write to the victim. It often does not matter if the content is positive or negative or shocking, their main purpose is to engage. Keeping this in mind, in order to survive a stalker, you will need to avoid engaging them. Even when they make inflammatory remarks, IGNORE them! Keep your focus and do not be distracted by their hunting tactics.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
