Is God Punishing Me?

You may have asked the question “Is God punishing me?” when all the pain and ugliness of an affair begins unfolding. In those moments of agonizing soul searching you review your life and all the bad things that you have done, wondering if they are catching up with you. Even though you are the one who did those ‘bad’ things, somehow you want to blame God for the consequences. Although it is convenient to blame God, the one who made the bad choices was you. The consequences are often simple ’cause and effect’. It could be that you are reaping what you have sown, rather then it being a matter of God punishing you. Although many modern progressive thinkers live as if there were no ’cause and effect’ rules in the universe, the reality is that those rules do exist. You may choose to disbelieve that such rules exist, but that does not make them of no effect.

Instead of putting God on the witness stand and grilling Him on ‘why’ or questioning whether he is punishing you, what you need to be doing is looking at what you need to do in order to improve your situation. Looking for who to blame is not going to improve things. It may provide you with a bad guy to blame things on, but it does not improve your marriage, or get your spouse back. If you want to soul search, consider focusing on items that will change your future rather than who to blame. Even if God is punishing you, it is more imperative to look at what you need to change or improve upon rather than punishing yourself for errors from your past.

Getting yourself straightened out needs to be done before straightening out the cheater. (See the first chapter my e-book on Surviving Your Partners Affair for more details).

Best Regards,

Jeffrey Murrah