It still amazes me how Bob Costas and others want to blame guns for the death of Jovan Belcher and his girl friend while ignoring his affair the night before. Affairs have a way of stirring passions that are not easily quenched. Affairs are often behind many crimes of passion. It is easier to blame the gun than the affair or even the drugs and alcohol involved. Combining the passions of an affair with the lowered impulse control provided by drugs and alcohol and you have the recipe for disaster. You can see the smoking gun, which is easy to blame. You can smell the alcohol, which often gets overlooked, and you can test for drugs in their system. What you can not tell on an autopsy is whether they had a broken heart or felt guilt about what happened. Since news reporters are often lazy and go for the easy item to blame, the real motivator behind events requires work. It takes work to find the other man or woman, and may upset people by threatening their sacred cow of sexual licentiousness by bringing attention to the affair. Bob Costas was lazy in blaming the gun, when the real source of pain was the affair, which was ignored. Had there been no gun, other weapons of convenience or even fists would have likely been the objects used in a fit of passion. Philanderers never see the philandering as the problem. If cheaters actually saw cheating as the problem, there would be less cheating. By blaming guns, drugs and alcohol, it allows cheaters around the globe off the hook. The philanderers do not have to have any moral accountability, since they can blame objects around them rather than the real problem of their moral condition and poor choices about cheating.
What can be learned about the tragedy of Jovan Belcher? There are many lessons to be gained about the life threatening aspect of affairs and how they ruin people’s lives. Will Bob Costas ever rant about the danger of affairs? I doubt it. If he did, it would offend many athletes and celebrities who often believe that they are special and above the moral rules of society when it comes to having extra women or men outside of their marriage.
Until society gets honest about the danger of affairs, the problems are not going away.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
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This was about cheating ? I have not been able learn about this as of yet.
He apparently was out with another woman (Brittni Glass) the night before all the violence happened. I included the link to the story. I have gotten to the point of realizing that many of the high drama celebrity episodes typically have an affair involved as well. The story has the information embedded. I suspect many people look at the headlines and skim over the details leading up to it. Another detail I read about is a possible head injury, which would have complicated his thinking even further.
Sigh….another way that following the Lord helps us keep ourselves in check when our emotions and hearts are inflamed….what terrible things happen when people do not care about the wider influence of getting what they feel THEY want or ‘need’ for themselves…..so sad for all …
People often do not realize that the limits God places on us are not to keep us from having fun, but rather to keep the destructive things from happening to us. I have not seen the latest statistics, but old ones show that a surprising large percentage of murders are affair related.
I can see how that can be the case….Makes you wonder how come adultery is then promoted across the board in media presentations….ads,…movies…tv …etc. A culture of death?
Zaza,
Adultery is promoted for many reasons. Some of which are to make money (merchandise of people), break down families, break down churches, and basically to destroy the moral fiber of the people. In some cases, adultery is allowed by God as a punishment for other wicked acts. Whether it is the cause or the effect, the effects of adultery are destructive.
Your comments on a culture of death are correct as well. Mainstream culture is filled with the glorification of death these days, which is tragic.
Yes,,..adultery indication of judgment uon a culture that has turned to idolatry …rejected the God who made all of what we enjoy …and I think it says in the OT that is curses the ground….Thanks is due since we are still breathe and can seek out forgiveness…of course that only comes about when one is ‘suddenly’ aware of the depth of how vile this sin is….or any other for that matter.
The testimony of those who have been willing to CHANGE is one of the things those who refuse to cannot answer ‘I CAN’T change’ will have to deal with …it is POSSIBLE but people have to WANT to change enough ….
For what I can see…some will not …and even if miserable they decide to stay miserable and self condemning …rather than turning to learn and make some changes….it is ‘too hard’ …but more than that I think it just doesn’t occur to them that people who live moral lives CAN and DO enjoy life ..even WITHOUT doing careless , reckless sinful things …huh…
Letting off more steam here …but I ‘ m OK and doing better ….daily..step by step. There IS life even married to someone who refuses to make effort to work on the marriage.
it is sad and astounding how someone can ‘say’ they are ‘so sorry ‘ for all they did …using the spouses and children’s lives ..as a backdrop to all the ‘fun’ and choices’ to fulfill their own lusts and greed…but they are ‘done’ with all that now and so ..everyone is still left with no hope of future plans to make any ammends….wa wa wah….