Some cheaters are looking for ‘spice’ and excitement. If you are one of those looking for spice and excitement and considered infidelity or swinging to add the excitement and spice, you will probably find some. The problem is that once you cross the line, you can not control what happens. There is often more spice than you can handle. It is potent, to the point of changing your life. You can not control how much or how often. When you cross the line, others will make that choice for you. The deception is that you assume that you have control. Once you enter an affair, you loose the control over others and yourself.
Affairs will always last longer, take you deeper and into darker places than you planned on going. It will take you places you never imagined going to, often without your intending to. The search for excitement often takes you down a rabbit hole that is way deeper, darker and dirtier than you thought it was. You may have intended the excitement to just be about sex. You will find that it turns into sex, control and often leads to life threatening situations. When you enter the world of affairs, you are entering a world filled with passion and control. Sex often changes from an enjoyable past time to a way of controlling and manipulating you. You will often find that you are in a whirlpool of money, emotions and threats of violence. The violence my be directed at you, your family, your lover or all the above. It is not just a matter of selling out your values, you may find that you become a commodity that is bought and sold as well.
Abraham Lincoln once stated that “No man has a long enough memory to be a good liar”. My own version of that is that when it comes to affairs, “No person has a long enough memory, strong enough self-control, powerful enough stamina, or enough money to be a good lover in an affair”. I say this due to how affairs will take the life out of you in one way or another. They also drain you of your resources in terms of money, family, spiritual and emotional. If you escape, you will be a shell of the person you used to be.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
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Sadly true…and those that get into them seem to think THEY will escape…it will be ‘different’ for them.
It is as strong a denial as facing the reality of one’s limited lifespan alotment on this earth.