Years ago, my brother Tim made me a cassette tape and gave it to me on my birthday. He entitled in ‘Music Even a 30-Year Old Can Listen To’. It was filled with music from that time period (Siouxsee and the Banshees, The Cure, and others).
In those days, it was common practice to record a mix of songs for people you cared about, since those songs expressed what you were experiencing. A good mix could do a lot for you.
I suppose the personal playlists on YouTube is the closest contemporary equivalent to that practice of recording cassette tapes of music you mixed. There are playlists covering a wide range of emotional experiences. I even came across one entitled ‘Break-up Songs’.
Such a playlist of ‘Break-up Songs’, I would have classified as ‘crying in your beer music’ in my youth. These are songs that on listening to over and over plunge you deep into self-pity, or if you dedicate such a playlist to someone, it’s a strong rejection of them.
We all need to be wanted. When your spouse tells you “I don’t want you anymore”, or “I don’t care anymore” or “I no longer want you”, it’s devastating to you. They are hard to hear and hard to accept. Your fist reaction may be some variation of “You don’t mean that!”
When the reality of them not wanting you anymore sinks in, it’s deflating. When the denial switch in your head is finally in the ‘off’ position, such news melts the life out of you. You lose your mojo, your energy, your sex drive drops and your face sinks. There is little if any motivation to get out of bed in the morning. Anyone who sees you know that ‘something’s not right.’
When this happens, running to the ‘break-up playlist’ may express what you’re feeling, but it’ll also drag you down. The power of music is strong. So strong that persisting in such break-up songs impacts your health down to your bones. Every system from your heart, to your digestive system are impacted. It’s no wonder you feel like everything inside of you aches.
What about you? Want to learn how to move past this? You don’t have to stay miserable, if you don’t want to. You’ll want to purchase my video, “Getting Past the Affair Crisis”. It takes you through what you need in getting past the melt-down and helps you get your life back
Best Regards,
Jeff
