One of the nightmares I wouldn’t wish on anyone is losing trust in a family member. When that happened to me, I found myself reading meanings into every action they took.
If there was a possible negative meaning or bad intention, I assumed the worse. My assumption was always negative.
Instead of innocent until proven guilty, when trust is gone in a family, it’s guilty until proven innocent. The family member I didn’t trust needed proof that what they were saying and doing before I felt at ease.I no longer took them at their word.
Although I thought I was ‘in control’, the reality I was out of control.
The trust breaker dominated my life. Whenever my mind wandered, it wandered straight to them and what that person was up to. The trust breaker dominated my thinking, my conversation and took up more computing space in my head than I wanted them to.
My life began revolving around them and the hurt they inflicted on my me. I wasn’t even able to enjoy good meals because I was focused on THEM.
Are you focused on someone who broke your trust? Are you losing sleep over it? Is your stomach talking to you about the situation? Are your thoughts obsessed with THEM.
When broken trust is allowed to fester, life becomes something that is endured rather than enjoyed. You also run the risk of losing yourself in that other person.
Life stopped for you, yet for them it continues on.
The price tag for broken trust is high. It’s not fair. They broke your trust, yet you end up suffering. That’s one of the quirks of trust.
If you’re struggling with the effects of broken trust, you’ve got some choices to make. You can choose holding onto your own hurts and continue distrusting.
It’ll give you a false sense of control and may make your pride feel better or you can start rebuilding the damaged trust.
The trust can be rebuilt. It’s not a once gone, forever gone situation. The video ‘How Can I Trust You Again?‘ guides you through the steps of rebuilding trust.
The price tag for not trusting keeps running up a tab until it’s dealt with.
Best Regards,
Jeff
