When cheaters are exposed, the often react defensively and start spewing out many outrageous statements. Many of their statements would be humorous is they didn’t really believe them. One of the statements used to excuse an affair is “but….I’m a man (or woman)”. When the statements is made, they truly stand behind what they are saying. They think that their gender somehow excuses their actions.
Although adult behavior used to mean ‘responsible’ behavior, when it comes to cheaters, ‘adult’ has been redefined to mean “hedonistic sexual behavior without responsibility or consequence”. They want to fornicate and carouse without any repercussion or consequence. This attitude did not come about in a vacuum. The mainstream media often portray adult role models as persons who engage in profligate sex. Somehow the “let’s get it on” attitude is equated with being an adult. This is a stark contrast to the old definitions of ADULT being associated with those who are responsible, consider others, and put their spouse above all others. Gone are the adult qualities of commitment and being patient.
The polluting of adulthood impacts all of us. Whether through movies, music or television shows, you are assaulted with these ‘new’ definitions of what is means to be adult. When the cheater throws out such excuses, they are saying “I do not think about what I am doing” “I don’t want to be responsible for the pain I have caused” “I do not want to be held accountable for anything I do”…”I am only a step above an animal when it comes to sexual self-control”
There are many messages communicated with “but ….I’m a man (woman) and none of them are flattering.
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Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
