Many times an affair is trivialized by the infidel, who claims, “it was no big deal”. Even when presented with the events, they will respond with “so, it was not a big deal”, or “you are making a big deal over nothing!”. What you are seeing is a window into the mental somersaults they are performing in their head to justify their actions. If you are a person who compromises to keep the peace, you may find yourself having to justify something that deep down you know is against your soul. In such cases, you may have to intentionally focus on doing what is the right thing. Taking such a stand will not avoid the conflicts, but you have to live with your own conscience. It is not worth losing your soul in order to avoid a fight.
Whatever occurred was a violation of trust. If it was not a big deal, then why the secrecy? If they felt good about it then they could do it in front of their kids, the parents and the church. If they do not feel that comfortable about it, then they know deep inside that what they did was wrong.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
