Earlier this month, my wife and I went on a cruise with her sister and husband. We welcomed the break from our routines.
Although I enjoy helping people recover from affairs, there are times I need a break from the intense emotions that come with it.
While sitting with my wife at a table on the aft deck taking in the warm weather, our peace and quiet was interrupted by a noisy nearby table. Six young women in their bathing suits sat down and began talking loudly.
I’m not sure if they’d been drinking or were just naturally loud as they attempted talking over each other. Typically I block out the people around us.
They talked loudly and brashly about topics best discussed is hushed conversation.
I tried blocking them out, until one of them decided on bringing up the topic of infidelity. Rather than discussing the topic in hushed tones, they were loud and public in their discussion.
Apparently, they enjoyed some aspects of the subject, given their laughing and joking about it. The whole situation struck me as a vivid illustration of modern life.
Although I didn’t make out their conversations, their immodest attire and loud laughing surrounding the topic made their position on the subject of infidelity clear. At that moment the contrast between the two tables struck me.
I realized that when it comes to affairs, you have choices. You have the contrast of the options in front of you.
You have a choice of two tables. You can talk about affairs in quiet tones where you reflect on matters or go to the loud, lively table where infidelity is a laughing matter. You can have your business handled quietly or in a very public manner.
Affairs are not a laughing matter to me. Your life and family are in jeopardy with affairs. Those are not laughing matters to me.
When you’re serious about recovering from an affair, it’s not a matter for public discourse at a loud table. It’s also not one of those things talked about over jokes and umbrella drinks.
How you handle the affair makes a difference in how things go between you and your spouse. In the download, “Affair Recovery Workshop“, I include sections covering who to talk to and what to talk about.
Although affairs can turn into public spectacles, such episodes are not conducive for healing. It may get your mind of things, but it doesn’t bring healing.
Best regards,
Jeff
