In a recent legal debate unfolding in France, a man accused of practicing polygamy is now claiming that his alleged wives are actually mistresses. The man, Lies Habbadij, is claiming that his actions are not illegal under either French law or religious law. Although this case is unfolding in France, the same mindset of Lies is one that many adulterers share. Adulterers are knows for their lies and their ability to persist in those lies despite all the evidence to the contrary. They look at their situation in a very legalistic manner, often claiming that they have done nothing wrong or illegal. Rather than honestly appraise the emotional or relationship damage of their actions, they instead focus the argument on ‘legal’ concerns. Common phrases used are “It was not technically adultery” or “We were consenting adults” or “It was not an affair since she was a (whore/mistress)”.
The excuses may vary from culture to culture, yet the mindset remains. Infidels do not recognize the damage of their actions. They only focus on their guilt and not the hurt, shame or dishonor they have inflicted on their spouses, their children or others. As long as they can engage in their sensual gratification without being held accountable is all they are interested in. Rather than being concerned about the identity confusion, lies, deceit, manipulation and trickery they have role modeled for their children and spouses, they would rather justify the legality of their actions.
Affairs and Infidelity bring hurt to everyone they touch. The damage inflicted goes deep, stretching across generations. The infidel can justify their actions and cite all kinds of definitions of what is or is not technically an affair or whether they have broken the laws of the nation they live in, but the scars of their actions remain. Profligacy, adultery, infidelity, cheating, straying, affairs, one night stands, etc. are disloyalty to one’s spouse, one’s oaths and one’s conscience. Excuses may be used to dull the pangs of conscience, but the ugly reality of affairs is one stain that does not wash away with time.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
