A couple of weeks ago, facebook asked its users the question “Does this post contain hate speech?” They posted this query on personal posts, media outlet posts and just about any post made.
The question even showed up on personal timeline posts. You were able to make a decision about your own posts as to whether they contained ‘hate speech’.
Even though hate speech is in the news with any disagreeable opinion being labeled as ‘hate speech’ while behaviors that should be ‘hated’ are considered free speech. It’s no wonder people are confused.
Taking stands and exposing sin and evil actions as evil are now considered hate. In pointing out the negative outcomes of affairs, it upsets people. No one wants to be reminded that what they’re doing is evil and wicked. They don’t want to be shamed or limited in any way.
In my mind, blogs, sites and feature stories promoting infidelity should be considered hate speech. Those promoting infidelity actually do hate your marriage and everything it represents.
The infidelity promoters detest the idea of a committed monogamous relationship. They oppose the values marriage represents. They do not want ‘heterosexism’ or you putting your relationship with your spouse ahead of your relationship with humankind. Let’s face it, there are people that hate happy, committed heterosexual marriages.
I know there are sites, stories and blogs promoting infidelity that I hate. If you have any hope of recovering from the affair, you need to start doing some hating as well. You need to ‘hate’ those sites, stories, movies, shows and blogs that attack your marriage commitment.
If you don’t hate them, you’ll find yourself tolerating them and letting them into your home and life. It’s only when you hate them, that you find the emotional energy and commitment to say ‘keep out’ and mean it.
If you say ‘you’re not welcome’ and need to leave, you need to mean it. Practice saying it when you shut down sites and delete things.
Half-hearted commitment brings half-hearted results. Half-hearted results in affair recovery invites affair relapse. You need to move past dislike and disapproval to bona fide hatred when it comes to affairs.
You need hatred of lies, toleration of infidelity, promotion of affairs, and even joking about affairs. Homewrecking is not a joking matter.
This means hating and rejecting falsehoods like ‘serial monogamy’ as well. When a preacher tells you that the verses about being married to one wife means ‘one wife at a time’, your alarm bells should go off.
Having hatred is a precursor to telling yourself the truth about what’s going on. If you don’t hate the affair, you aren’t being completely honest with yourself.
If you don’t recognize when affairs are creeping into your life, you’ll benefit from reading this blog on a daily basis. Here you can gain new insights and find new practical ways of dealing with the affair and recovering from it.
Best Regards,
Jeff
