When I worked in hospitals, there was a constant concern over JCAHO surveys. Those were the surveys where your operations and staff were scrutinized under a microscope.
Every aspect of your operation and services were examined and evaluated. Preparing for those surveys was quite an undertaking.
At one point, the surveys were highly interested in biopsychosocials. These were extensive histories taken on new admissions to the hospital. The interest in perfecting them led to me developing quite an interest in what those biopsychosocials revealed about clients.
A closer examination of them provided a different picture of the problem than appeared on the surface. You learn how those early life events really do have long term effects. You can’t cheat cause and effect.
I recalled those days on reading about how Robin Williams first wife knew about and allowed his infidelities. Although he is presented as a poster child for depression treatment, then later for lewy body dementia (LBD), his history of infidelities is rarely mentioned.
You rarely obtain the full picture of some celebrities until months after they die. That’s when the ‘true’ histories emerge.
With the new disclosures, it puts his depression in a different light. Suppose that all those affairs and the guilt associated with them caught up with him. In that case, his tragic life would serve as a warning about the long term impact of affairs.
The depression was the effect of other factors.
Affairs leave an impact on you. They impacted Williams. His first wife left him after he impregnated their nanny. Those affairs have consequences.
Money and fame didn’t protect Robin Williams from the long term effects. Nor will they protect you or your spouse from the effects either.
This means putting off facing and resolving those old affair issues is important. Affairs, like other problems only spiral further out of control when allowed or ignored.
You may love your spouse, yet avoiding dealing with the issue is not a way of showing love. Robin Williams first wife said that her husband “Absolutely loved women. And I got it.
“I understood and I wanted him to have that, but I also wanted him to come home.”
The life of Robin Williams would have been different had he stayed at home and been loyal to his wife before things spun out of control.
At Restored Lifestyle, I examine this new revelation and the lessons it has that impact you and your marriage, along with the life lessons they contain.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
