In the movie, The Great Outdoors with John Candy and Dan Aykroyd, there are some great lines. One of those lines spoken by Aykroyd’s character was “ You wouldn’t know a good time if it fell out of the sky and landed on your face and started to wiggle!”
The line is so rich in imagery, it sticks with you. John Candy was a favorite of my best friend growing up. He loved John Candy movies and saw to it that he shared them with me, especially when Dan Aykroyd was also in them.
Although I didn’t appreciate their humor then as much as I do now. I guess I didn’t recognize good humor when it landed in my life and started to wiggle.
Now, anytime I see those movies, I can’t get enough of the humor and the one liners.
The comment about not recognizing things started me thinking about whether you recognize powerlessness when recovering from an affair. You may be experiencing it and not realize what it is or what it means.
If your marriage is filled with threats, silent treatments, lying, pretending, cancelling plans and avoiding, you’re in the middle of powerlessness.
IT may have been going on so long, you no longer see it. It may even be wiggling on your face and in your head and you don’t see it.
If these symptoms are showing up more and more as you deal with affair recovery, one of you is feeling powerless. These behaviors are part of the unhealthy patterns that keeps it going.
When you’re ready to quit those old patterns you’re going to need help in the form of someone pointing it out to you, so that you can correct it. Those old powerless habits can numb you out when they’ve been going too long.
This is where joining the support community at Restored Lifestyle comes in. There you can ask for and receive feedback on your bad habits so you can start changing them.
You can also learn some better ways of handling communication, rebuild trust, forgive and reduce affair relapse. But first, you’ve got to know powerlessness when it lands on your face so you can remove it and start improving your marriage.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
