With the increasing use of sex robots, I find myself asking the question, “Would you know the difference between a human and a robot?” My initial response is “of course”.
Such a question has an obvious answer. At the point in technology, it’s easy seeing the difference between robots and humans. The visual and behavioral differences that are obvious.
On further pondering, it struck me that some spouses are already being programmed to not know the difference. Their thinking has already been changed to treat their spouses like a robot.
If you’re already treating your spouse like a robot in your thinking, it’s not going to be a big adjustment to replace them with a robot.
You may be asking “How am I saying that? or “Jeff, where are you coming from on this one?”
Actually a reader left a challenging comment on the blog. He said, “…deceiving and making your spouse live a lie is the ultimate manipulative and controlling behavior. They are not free to understand the truth of the situation and make their own choices.”
His comment had me reading and re-reading it again. When you are not free to understand the truth about an affair (e.g. they are hiding things), you are not free to make your own choices. When you can’t make your own choices but instead others are making them for you, it’s de-humanizing.
When you de-humanize your spouse, you start turning them into something that you program, like a robot. Think about that for a moment. When one spouse decides what you should or should not know, they are taking free choice from you.
At that moment, you are being programmed. You making choices based on programming, not based on all the information you need. That is the stuff of robot relationships.
A robot relationship is when you program your spouse rather than treat them as human. Affairs are definitely de-humanizing, across the whole life of the affair. From planning, to engaging in the affair to recovering from it, the threat of de-humanizing (treating them like a programmable robot) is there.
If you can’t make free choices, you’re not free.
This means affair recovery is not just about bouncing back from the affair, it also includes a rebirth of your relationship by treating each other as humans in your communication and behavior. At the Restored Lifestyle site, there are videos of restoring intimacy and human-ness to your relationship.
You don’t have to be confused between humans and robots any longer.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
