First, let me wish you a blessed New Year. I say blessed since we can’t always be ‘Happy’, but we can be blessed.
You can also look at your life through the lens of blessings. When you start looking for the benefits of what happens to you, you thinking differently. Not all the things that happen are pleasant by any means.
It’s hard viewing those unpleasant things as ‘blessings’. An old acquaintance whose face I remember, but whose name I don’t often said that blessings are curses turned inside out. I’m not sure how solid the theology is behind that, yet I like the attitude behind it.
Besides being a time for reviewing your life, New Years offers the opportunity of new beginnings. It reminds me that you can always make a new start.
New Years is a good time for making changes and new starts. A new start also includes doing things different or being a better version of yourself.
This is a time for investing in your marriage. Investments in your marriage relationship always pays dividends. Another good investment is improving your own communication and communication skills.
It will amaze you what happens when you put your focus and time into your marriage rather than use it on your smart phone. What has all those hours you’ve spent gotten you compared to what would’ve happened had you instead put them into your marriage?
I tell you what. Send your spouse a text, or better yet, call them. You don’t need an agenda other than telling them you want to hear their voice. If you can’t think of a good reason to contact them, try blaming me. Telling them that some relationship expert told you to do it.
Reaching out is a way of starting recovery. Even when you don’t know what to say, just reach out.
This is how to start a new year. Taking steps of reaching out. Making communication a priority. What are you going to make a priority this year?
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Keeping It Real,
Jeff
