Although January is a good time for making changes, you want those changes to be good ones. Two groups of people whose ship comes in January are divorce lawyers and the owners of online dating sites.
You may wonder why are these two groups rejoicing about January. Typically the day more divorces are filed than any other is the first Monday in January.
This first week in January is also the highest traffic days for online dating sites.
Matchmaking and divorcing are both big businesses. They know that January is when people, like yourself make changes and they position themselves to benefit from it. One is about putting people together, the other about splitting them apart.
Here they are at both ends of the marriage relationship spectrum cleaning up every January. I suspect some of you may be using both.
The best thing you can do for your marriage relationship is improve the communication. Whether yours is falling apart or working things out, you need clear communication. Although you may not want to talk about things, it’s an essential skill.
Another essential skill for your marriage is problem solving. The two of you need better ways of solving problems.
When it comes to problem solving you need clarity on what the root problem is. Many couples are distracted by surface issues or distractions. When you allow those to take over your focus, you end us solving the wrong problem.
You find yourself address symptoms or surface concerns rather than what’s at the root or core of the matter.
You also need to know the difference between what can be ‘fixed’ and what needs to be lived with. In marriage more issue need to be lived with than be fixed.
At the Restored Lifestyle membership site, there are resources that show you how to get to the root problems along with ways of improving intimacy and enhancing communication. The new year is a great reason for joining.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
