Recently I’ve found myself having to deal with a rat. I detest rats and dislike knowing they are residing any place near where I live.
Living out in the countryside, rats are a periodic risk. There’s also a recent coyote problem, but my concern is the rat. Part of me hope that the coyotes find the rat and enjoy themselves.
Once I encounter evidence of any rats around, I spring into action. Part of springing into action includes being hyper-alert to any sounds or indication of vermin around. At those times, I can feel my mind and body ‘tense up’ in preparing for action.
In the still of the night any noise in my home is suddenly attributed to ‘the rat’. There have been times when I’ve laid awake straining to hear any indications of it scratching, scurrying or gnawing.
I lay awake staring at the ceiling, trying to figure out what the sounds are telling me along with making plans for the rodent invader.
It’s fair to say that when it comes to rats, my reactions indicate some anxiety about them. Rats are one of those things that trigger anxiety for me.
Once an affair happens occurs, you may likely react to it the way I react to rats. You think you see signs of the affair everywhere. You start seeing affair threats everywhere you go.
You are suspicious of anyone whose friendly toward your spouse. When anyone gets chatty or gets too close to your spouse, your affair alarms go off!
You see signals and signs everywhere, even when they may not be there. You are in the midst of affair anxiety.
At night, you find yourself imagining different affair scenarios, right down to the conversations. Detail after detail go through your head as you reflect on the affair.
When your spouse’s phone goes off, you wonder if …it’s the lover. Anytime they run late, you wonder if the lover’s involved.
It becomes a living nightmare. Your own mind and emotions torment you with what you imagine is going on. Try as hard as you can, but you can’t erase what’s in your head.
You try keeping yourself busy. The busier, the better, but it doesn’t make the thoughts go away.
At those moments, you’re experiencing affair anxiety. The good news is that there are things you can do. There are techniques for calming down anxious minds.
If you’re looking for answers, I share some of these techniques in the video “Overcoming Affair Trauma”. When you take action early, your anxious reactions can be stopped before they turn into a major trauma in your life.
At the moments you experience affair anxiety, your brain is desperately looking for solutions to what’s going on. It’s not sure where to go and what to do. You can guide your brain into a calmer place with the techniques in the video.
You don’t have to continue letting those uptight behaviors taking over your mind and life.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
