Although I enjoy GPS and its convenience, there are times I still need maps. Seeing my journey laid out on a map helps me makes sense of where my trip will take me. I need to know the real route I’ll be taking.
The map lets me know what to expect and things I need to avoid. Some maps even have historic sites marked, which always intrigues me.
Travel guide books only tell me of the touristy stuff. More often than not, the things I’m interested in aren’t found in guide books.
I’ve also enjoyed finding roadmaps to understanding non-verbal messages and hidden meanings behind behaviors. Being aware of hidden messages and dangers has helped me navigate through many negotiations.
When it comes to affairs, knowing what to look for and be on alert for saves you many heartaches. One of the relationship road maps is found in the wording of apologies.
When a cheater tells you “I was wrong, but you were too” your alarms should go off. On the surface, such a statement sounds like an awareness of wrong doing.
Wrong doing is admitted, yet the person saying it isn’t owning full responsibility. They are side stepping the issue. They’re appeasing their guilty conscience without taking on full responsibility.
If this is the kind of response you have heard, my relationship roadmap alerts you that there’s trouble ahead and the apology is insincere. In this case, the cheater is putting conditions on what they did.
In all likelihood, they’ll continue with this kind of ‘conditional thinking’ and approaches to solving relationship differences.
The wording of what they say matters. It gives you clues to their thinking if you really listen to what they’re saying to you.
I cover the issue of what the essentials are in sincere apologies in the video “Forgiveness: Stop the Pain, Tear Down the Walls and Remove the Roadblocks”.
If you wonder if you can trust the cheaters apology and whether it’s ‘for real’, this video will help you with such curiosity. You can know whether you’re being played or the cheater is ‘for real’.
If you wonder who should make the first move when it comes to forgiveness, I go over that as well.
Instead of feeling lost and unsure whether you can believe what they’re telling you, you can have peace of mind. You can know what to listen for that let’s you know they mean business.
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Keeping It Real,
Jeff
