In my youth, one of the stories I enjoyed was “Three Billy Goats Gruff”. I always rooted for the goats and developed a dislike of trolls.
My dislike continued through adolescence and encountering The Hobbit. Trolls were still bad news.
My dislike of trolls continues on. They hide and lurk for potential victims. When you don’t expect it, they strike. With harsh words and dark ways, they always interfere with my journey, whether over bridges or down pathways.
Little did I know the ‘baddies’ from those early life experiences would continue into my adult life.
If you’ve been on social media sites for any amount of time, you’ve likely encountered trolls. At times they entertain me and others they irritate me.
Troll responses are typically canned and clearly biased. Anytime I’ve been called names or been cursed out, there’s been a troll behind it.
They aren’t open to considering any kind of honest debate or discussion. The only discussions they’re interested in is when they can bash you over the head with their mantra.
They want you to accept their viewpoint or you’re wrong/ a hater/ expletive. I’ve even encountered them on my website devoted to helping couples like you recover form infidelity.
One of the latest stated: “Human Beings are not monogamic fundamentally …To my experience swapping, where both partners agree to exploring sexual pleasures outside of their own , is very exciting and fulfilling. It’s important that both should be into it equally and have a strong and open communication between all involved. The fun of it is in experiencing this aspect of life together and it has to be as a team and not solo.”
The comment amounts to a commercial for non-monogamy. In my mind, they might as well do an ad campaign for sleeping around.
It emphasizes pleasure and excitement. Like many troll-like comments, there’s no acknowledgement of the pain, heavy drug use, STD’s, secret keeping and dysfunctional family relations that surround such a lifestyle.
Like a broken record, the trolls repeat the mantra ‘human beings are non-monogamic’. They spout it as if it is scientifically proven, when in reality such findings are based on conjecture, theories and speculation from either animal or anthropological observations.
If trolls were honest, they would present the whole picture of what happens with affairs rather than harping on the parts they’re promoting.
You know first-hand what affairs bring into your life and family. Someone had excitement that has a huge price tag. That price tag is seldom mentioned by trolls.
Are you more secure and emotionally healthy as a result of the affair? Is the communication in your marriage better now than it’s ever been?
Do you feel safe when your spouse is late coming home from work?
If you answered in the negative to any of these questions, you’re experiencing some of the effects of an affair. If you need a place to talk with others about what’s happened to you, there is such a place.
At the membership website, Restored Lifestyle, you can share, read and comment with others who are facing similar challenges. There’s plenty of people wanting to tear down your marriage. Here you’ll find support for keeping yourself together and finding ways of strengthening your own marriage.
Join today and become part of the community and conversation.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
