Are there times you wonder why your friends don’t support you working things out with your spouse? Although your friends, especially those who attended your marriage should be supporting reconciliation, they don’t always come through.
If anything, they either distance themselves from you like you’re infected or feed into the gossip driving the two of you away from each other.
With surprising regularity some friends don’t support you and your spouse having reconciliation. This means that there will be many times you feel alone in wanting to work things out with your spouse.
There are many reasons for friends not supporting reconciliation. Some don’t understand marriage, some take up your offenses as theirs and some are convicted by what’s going on.
Some are afraid the affair germs will rub off on their marriage. Some secretly want your marriage to fail.
Whatever their reason, you can’t depend on them in your struggle for reclaiming your marriage. They may say marriage is important to them, yet when the going gets tough you find out that there are limits to their priorities.
When you’re hope is rebuilding or saving your marriage, you’ll find out how many of those professing a belief in marriage really believe in the institution. Marriage requires sacrifices and examining your priorities.
As long as your marriage looks like a Sandals resort commercial, things go smooth. What the commercials don’t show are the choices and sacrifices made along the way.
When the painful struggles of marriage become real to you and those around you, it’s convicting. It forces you and them to consider whether commitment to your wedding vows is worth it. You find out if they were just words or whether you meant it.
When you decide that you meant it, we have the tools you need for taking action. It’s one thing to want a better marriage, it’s another to make it happen. Knowing what changes to make is critical.
Your marriage needs help in improving intimacy, communication, how each of you treat each other and adjusting expectations. You’ll also need help in knowing what patterns to break along with where to look.
In the Affair Recovery Workshop, I guide you in each of those areas. You can know what to do rather than blindly guess. You’re not in this alone anymore when you have the tools you need.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
