One of the common tactics of the police shows on television is threatening people who knew about a crime with ‘conspiracy’. The officers do this even when they know the person questioned wasn’t part of the crime itself. Seeing such ploys reminds me of when I served on a federal jury where a similar case came up.
The strategy of the prosecutors in the case consisted of pressuring the low level people to give up the bigger fish. In pressuring the small fish, they cast a wide net. They tried accusing them of any crime they could think of. A big part of their strategy relied on proving there was a ‘conspiracy’.
Although the press makes light of conspiracies, they happen, as you’ve seen with the affair.You’re not imagining things.
It’s astounding when you discover how many people knew about the affair and said nothing to you. In some cases, the conspirators not only hid the affair, they encouraged it as well. It leaves you feeling like the last person to know.
When those conspirators are family members or those you thought were close friends, you feel betrayed. With large scale betrayal, you start feeling paranoid.
When you’re dealing with a conspiracy, it’s not just paranoia. They really are out to fool you and keep you in the dark. Sadly, they do so out of loyalty to the cheater or to ‘protect‘ you.
Conspiracies are when actions speak louder than words. Those involved may say they care about you and that they feel your pain, and that they regret what happened.
They may even have excuses like, it was none of their business, or “I didn’t want to spread gossip” or “I didn’t want to hurt you”. In such times, their reluctance to say anything amounts to them supporting the affair. Whether intentional or not, it became a ‘conspiracy of silence’.
The bottom line is this. When everyone is in on the secret and you’re left out…it’s a conspiracy! That’s what terrorist do and that’s what those around you did.
The conspiracies also amplify feelings of betrayal. At times it may feel that there are more who betrayed you than remained loyal to you. The flood of betrayal can be so strong that you start questioning the loyalty of everyone, and start wondering when they are going to betray you as well.
When you’ve been burned by the conspiracy of silence, trust becomes a struggle. Trust is no longer something that’s ‘just there’, now you have to have proof and second guess everything. Others will tell you that you need to forgive or you need to trust again. That sounds well and good, but “How?” How can you trust anyone again?
In my video, “How Can I Trust You Again?” I show you what specific steps are needed in helping you trust others again. There are specific steps you can take in rebuilding trust.
Rebuilding trust is NOT about a leap of faith. There are specific tasks and steps involved. You can trust again. Your trust can also be based on a solid foundation rather than ‘touchy-feely’ hopes and dreams.
Losing your friends and family over what happened is something you didn’t count on. The affair produced casualties in places you never expected.
You don’t have to lose all those relationships. You can take steps at rebuilding them. You can also learn which ones are salvageable and which ones aren’t.
The trust formula which I share in the video makes building trust on a solid foundation possible and achievable. It is possible to trust people once again.
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Keeping It Real,
Jeff
