One of the blogs I follow periodically is “The Betrayed Wives Club“. I find it helps hearing the many perspectives concerning infidelity.
A recent headline there caught my attention. In bold letters it asked “How Can I Be Sure I Won’t Be Hurt Again?”
The original post addressed the question in terms of lessons she’s learned from her yoga instructor that has many applications in her everyday life. The post was well worth the time spent reading it.
From my perspective, the only 100% sure way of not getting hurt again is by putting up walls and avoiding relationships. When people can’t get in, they can’t hurt you.
Putting up a wall is the best insurance policy in avoiding hurt.
Although it works, that option isn’t healthy. Rather than running from the pain you fear, consider running toward it. Try facing your relationship and fears. Although it’s counter-intuitive, it works.
I was told as a child that you have to slay the dragon in order to obtain the treasure. Although it’s not yoga, that lesson from childhood stories has yielded good results. I’ve faced my share of dragons along the way.
If you want healing in your marriage, or to recover from the affair, the pathway for doing it is by facing your fears and dragons. This poses a problem. You now face the choice of avoiding pain or repairing your relationship and yourself.
If healing your marriage relationship is your priority, you’ll benefit from having helpful tools. In the video “Let’s Talk: Hurting People, Healing Questions”, I share with you ways of opening up your relationship with your spouse.
Instead of living in fearful desperation, you can instead be taking steps toward healing your relationship.
Moving past your fears is more rewarding that running from them. You can find healing ways of dealing with matters rather than running from them.
Imagine how much more you’ll enjoy your relationships when you no longer have to make decisions based on avoiding hurts. The running and avoiding hurts leads to poor decision making.
Click and download your copy today. What have you got to lose besides fear?
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
