When growing up, I often heard comedians tell mother-in-law jokes. At the time I laughed at the punch lines. After getting married, I saw those jokes and stories in a whole new light.
Those old jokes touched on important truths and relationship lessons. I have seen good in-laws and bad in-laws and the impact they have on marriages. They can be a wonderful help or something that adds tremendous pressures and heartaches.
When your marriage is damaged by cheating, It changes how you feel and view your in-laws.
One of the ways things change is by putting you and them in the middle of a loyalty crisis. They and you are now in a situation where you have to take moral stands. Some may take a hard line stand while others take an accommodation approach.
Whichever stance they take, the relationship between you and them is suddenly changed. At this time, you may have to give yourself permission to separate from them for a while.
During affair recovery, boundaries take on added importance. It’s not easy setting boundaries with your in-laws. They will test your boundaries.
Even if you’re fortunate enough to have good in-laws, you may need the space for your own healing. It’s important realizing that this doesn’t make you a bad person. Taking care of yourself during affair recovery doesn’t make you bad, it means you want to heal, you need time to catch your breath.
The boundary issue with the in-laws isn’t easy, but it’s a necessary part of the healing process. Another part of the healing concerns rebuilding trust after everything’s been found out and dealt with.
Once the issues are settled, you can’t stay in your shell for an extended time. Eventually you’ll need to trust others again, including your in-laws.
It’s also okay for you to place limits on how far you’re willing to trust them. Having limits on trust is fine. You will have to eventually have to trust again, or limit trust. You can’t keep the world away from you from here on out.
What is important is knowing how to rebuild trust. In the video, “How Can I Trust You Again?”, I share ways of rebuilding trust with you. You can know what to do that re-establishes trust again.
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Keeping It Real,
Jeff
