One of the ‘real-life’ nightmares I’ve encountered is that of spouses discovering their spouse not only cheated on them, but has a whole second family.
This may sound like something that only happens in movies and television shows, but it is a very real occurrence.
It is an extreme example of the deception family members can experience.
Those secret second family situations still happen.
In the days before social media and the internet they were more common. At one point, I though the secret second family was a thing of the past, but I was mistaken. They continue happening.
Secret second families are shocking discoveries. They’re also a nightmare for courts trying to sort out which family is legitimate and which isn’t.
Even when a spouse discovers that their husband or wife is cheating, they may not find out everything right away, including other children.
Cheating spouses are usually keeping more secrets than what one could imagine. For example, the lover isn’t just an affair partner, but a whole separate person.
One of the weird twists with these situations is that the cheater typically is family-oriented. They do want their families which confuses things. Although they want their families, they don’t commit to one or the other, instead they try accomplishing both.
Although they married you and their other spouse, their inability to remain loyal to you is a problem. By being married to each spouse, they go through the motions of being married. They found a way to live with their conscience, although it’s a split existence.
However they package what they’re doing, they aren’t being loyal to you and your family. The promises they made on your wedding day are broken. They haven’t cherished you above all others. They haven’t protected you from this danger.
The bottom line is that they had an affair. No matter how they package what they did, or try excusing it, they weren’t loyal to you. They betrayed you.
The painful truth is they may love your children, but not enough to remain loyal to you. They may also have children with their other spouse. This is just another way they’re cheating on you.
The truth is that the ‘real’ person he cheated with is not worth anything to him, including his loyalty.
This is a hard truth you’re now facing. This truth also bring a massive wound with it.
In dealing with that wound, there’s confusion and the sensation of being torn apart. You can’t continue living with those sensations. Rather than toughing it out, there are options.
The option I want to present to you is forgiving them. They did you wrong, you can’t change what they did, but you can move past it with forgiveness.
Struggling with forgiveness?
Forgiveness is about you. It’s not about them. If that’s what you think, it’s no wonder you’re struggling with it. When you’re tired of continuing the struggle and being torn, there is a way to move on. Click and download the video today.
You can’t change what happened in your past but you can change how it affects your future by letting go of the pain and moving on from it all together! Watch this video now for more information on how to do just that! Action: Download this free video now!
In the video, “Forgiveness: Stop the pain, tear down the walls and remove the roadblocks” I share with you a proven method for letting go of the pain and moving past it.
Forgiveness isn’t about approving or condoning what they did. If that’s what you think forgiveness is about, it’s no wonder you continue struggling with it. It’s not about them, it’s instead about the burdens and pains you continue carrying.
When you’re tired of continuing the struggle and being torn, there is a way to move on. Click and download the video today.
Keeping it Real,
Jeff
