The fast fix gets you out of the pain and gets you quick answers, but it doesn’t resolve the problem. Relationships don’t work on a fast-fix platform. Relationships are more complicated than that.
For many, the culture of fast fixes is a huge obstacle in recovering from an affair. This mindset leads us to want answers and reduce pain as quickly as possible rather than taking our time “working through” things right with your partner. The problem with these quick-fix solutions is that they focus on symptoms without ever resolving all of the underlying issues which created them in the first place.
One issue arising when surrounded by this cultural phenomenon called “fast fix”—the eagerness for speedy results no matter what it takes–is how one’s thinking changes along with their expectations and emotional state; instead opting for quick fixes (such as beating yourself up or trying anything but working through problems together) simply because you’ve become accustomed to looking it up on Google or asking Siri or Alexa for answers. If you are techie, you may even ask some version of AI for your fast answers.
If you don’t take the time to work through all of your feelings and issues with an affair, it can have a lasting effect on both parties. Rather than even getting clear with yourself on your own feelings, you instead take off looking for answers or revenge. That doesn’t work.
Affair recovery requires that both partners take the time to talk it through, and when you have a fast-fix mentality, it can be difficult to get both parties on board with this concept. Taking the time and effort to go through all of your feelings and issues related to an affair is absolutely critical for healing from infidelity.
Working through any issue takes patience and understanding from both sides. This is not something that will be solved by simply flipping a switch!
You’ll be glad you took the time to work through all your issues, rather than just giving up and taking an easy answer. You already know what it’s like to have a once-upon happy life turn into one big pile of misery in no time flat because someone cheated on you – why not take action now?
The action that will help is going through the Affair Recovery Workshop with each other. It’s designed with a unique sequence that takes you to the root of each issue rather than the fast-fix answers.
The fast fix hasn’t helped your situation. When you think about it, the affair itself was a fast fix to other issues. Isn’t it time you worked through the issues rather than looking for fast closure?
Click and download your copy of the Affair Recovery Workshop today. It will guide you and your spouse through meaningful solutions rather than fast fixes.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
